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the Responsibility of the Empath


I am in Hawaii. It’s the first week of January, and back in DC there is something called a “bomb cyclone” impending. The temperature is in the single digits there.

And….Hawaii is glorious of course. All the more glorious in that five years ago I was too ill to take trips like this. Which didn’t stop me from trying…but I was in abject misery at every given moment and trying desperately not to be. It was excruciating both physically and emotionally.

But now I am in twelve step recovery. For me it works, like nothing else I tried ever could. Now I have the tools to navigate life’s bumps, and it’s a different world. I have freedom like I have never had before. I’ve regained my sanity. I feel guided, supported.

The most seductive aspect of travel (I think) is that all the new stimuli jostles loose your thought patterns. A stream of memories I had forgetten – and new associations put together from them -flicker through my mind like ticker-tape. Many humbling, but the safety of hindsight allows me to see them with new eyes.

To my core I am an explorer. Every dark corner I must investigate, every diversion off the beaten path I must take. The thrill in this is the intuitive guidance I receive when I head off into the unknown, and this intuition is the foundation of my recovery. Just around each corner that I am urged is some new wonder I couldn’t have anticipated.

Example: I like to go for long walks on the beach. Long, tranced-out, silent, solitary walks. I sit and watch people. I buy food from locals. I climb over fences. I listen to music. I stare at the sun on the sea until I go blind. I talk to children. I stretch and I sit and I notice and I appreciate. I try to quietly leave a trail of tiny positive actions behind me, but only that. I connect.

So I go for a long walk. To walk in Hawaii means you climb volcanic rocks on the shore line for ages. It’s not easy…but I am nimble. I press forward, always.

And I find a giant sea turtle napping on the beach. I am flabbergasted. I break every rule out of ignorance. I get super close, pet its fin. They are incredible creatures to see, prehistoric…black eyes as big as my fists, lazily blinking at you. Water flushes out of their noses and eyes occasionally…“turtle tears” they are called.

The next day I walk further. It’s not easy but I have set a goal, to get to the furthest point I can see from where I am staying. And I am rewarded for this. It’s moments like these that let me know my intuition is the Universe speaking through me, and it wants the best for me.

I stumble upon a small cove of twenty sleeping sea turtles. It is mind blowing, all these big docile animals napping on each other. Each of their faces different. I am mesmerized.

And then I walk further on…and find a stranded turtle. He is on a dry rock, stuck. The rocks behind him are jagged. He must have floated in and then the tide went out..and now he is locked in, unable to move.

I climb down to him, talk to him. As I do many people pass by…local services were called days ago but nothing is happening. He has been there for two days I am told by a passerby. Stranded. In pain. Dying. Alone. Exactly as I was, for about fifteen years. I feel like I can read his mind, the situation is so similar in a sense. How did I get here? How long will this pain last? Can no one help me? How long will dying take? I imagine his pain, his confusion…I have felt this way myself, so many times. He is suffering. If he is to die I need him to know someone cared, that some kind of kindness was given him. That the world is actually good. That he is not alone. That we truly did all we could.

I travel back down the beach to fetch him water. When I return I am overjoyed to see a ten year old boy has mercifully placed a small pail of water underneath his mouth. We take turns filling the bucket, and wetting him down. He drinks a bit, weakly. But he does it and perks up a bit. It’s so sweet to see him swallow, to trust us.

When I am alone with the turtle I talk to him in soothing tones and pet his fin. I hope the vibration of my voice at least relays that I mean well. He lifts his head and looks at me. We make eye contact.

“We are a team” I tell the kid when he returns. “You water him now, and I will come back tomorrow and do it again.” I tell him “You were very smart and brave to put the bucket underneath his mouth. Thank you for doing that. Our responsibility is to do all that we can, and the rest we must let go. But if you can do something you should. That is our repsonsibility.” And we high-five, we are turtle saving team. When I leave he is diligently at his station, wetting the turtle. I love this kid, I am so proud of him for going the extra mile here…when every adult who has passed by expresses concern and leaves it at that. “Rest assured I won’t let this go” I tell the boy before I leave. “I am going to do everything I can to help. But if it doesnt work please just know we tried our best.”

On my way back I tell every local I can find. A man I met who runs a local tour company, the kid who runs the surfshop, a posse of preteen boys vaping. “Tell everyone you know who might help” I ask them. “Go get your older brothers”.

That night I think about the turtle. In the dark, alone. Just himself and his maker, the stars and the sea. Is he afraid I wonder. I was, for him.

And the next morning I am fully expecting to see dead turtle…but he is gone. I am quite sure someone came early in the morning and lifted him out…or the tide must have finally come in enough he could muster enough energy to climb out. And I am so grateful that he is free and will live to swim in the sea again.…even if he were to die tomorrow I’d feel satisfied. Just like me…we have lived to tell the tale.

And I think about the little boy…and whomever lifted the turtle out (if indeed that is what happened)…and the turtle himself. It just makes me so happy to know we are not alone. We are never alone…listen for the Universe to tell you what you need to do. It speaks in the form of intuition…like ”bring the turtle water”. But then it is up to you to listen to it, and do what it says. Beyond that you have no control, and you must rest assured the Universe has it’s logic.

No one will ever love you more than this force, this voice, this energy…all good things come from it. Recognise and appreciate it. And when you are given moments like this…that affirm “I am human, I don’t know what’s around the bend but I know I will be good” give thanks. You are alive.

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our in-house products!

Hello! This is long overdue…but I thought with the introduction of our NEW eye creams it was a good time to give you some info on our in-house products.

We have four thus far…Skin Tonic (toner), Sea Serum (daily serum), and Eye Bright and Eye Tight (eye creams).


Here is a bit more info on what is in them…and what these active ingredients do!

Please note: products containing hyrdolized collagen are not suitable for vegans/vegetarians! Also…I was unable to have the eye creams made without parabens, this go round.

Anyway, here you are! We hope you love these products as much as we do :)

xo A

Skin Tonic
with: aloe vera juice, rose and orange flower waters, sea kelp ferment

Sea Serum
with: sea kelp ferment, hydrolyzed collagen, coconut fruit juice, fucoidan, fucoxanthin and astaxanthin

Eye Bright
with: jojoba seed oil, sesame seed oil, sweet almond oil, avocado oil, pomegranate seed oil, lavender oil…sea kelp bioferment, cholesterol lipids, caffeine and chrysin, alpha lipoic acid, astaxanthin and lycopene, glauthione

Eye Tight
with: jojoba seed oil, sesame seed oil, sweet almond oil, avocado oil, lemon grass oil…hydrolized collagen, boswellia serrata extract, green tea extract, cholesterol lipids, betalunic acid


sea kelp ferment – soothing yet potent carrier of powerful antioxidants and nutrients essential in cell function. used in many of our treatments as a mask…one of our all time favourite active ingredients!

fucoidan, fucoxanthin and astaxanthin – ultra potent antioxidants found in our sea kelp

glauthione – tripeptide composed of the amino acids L-glutamine, L-cysteine, and glycine. amino acids are the “building blocks” of proteins in our skin

chrysin – a flavone present in the blue passion flower, can help diminish the appearance of dark circles under the eyes due to thinning skin

green tea extract and caffeine – tightens delicate skin around the eye

hyrdolized collagen – peptides obtained by the hydrolysis of fish collagen. they help supply your skin with amino acids that can be used in collagen synthesis. this is one of the few animal derived actives we have because plants don’t make collagen 😉

boswellia serrata/”indian frankincense”- promotes collagen synthesis and is also an inhibitor of elastase (protease) and hyaluronidase (breaks down hyaluronic acid), a real life preserver for the dermal matrix.
betulinic acid – helps to stimulates collagen synthesis and actively inhibits the enzyme elastase to prevent/correct the loss of elastic fibers responsible for skin suppleness.

lycopene and alpha lipoic acid – powerful anti oxidants

cholesterol lipids – all natural, light-reflecting hydrators

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Radiesse and Liliya

I am quite thin…and my face shows it.  I have noticed “hollows” forming in my cheeks, causing my nasolabial lines (the long lines running running from nose to mouth on either side) to deepen as I age.

I have been debating trying one of the new longer lasting fillers on the market, such as Sculptra.  What makes this filler different it acts acts as a bio-stimulatory filler, meant to stimulate your own collagen.  It begins to form starting 2 weeks after injection, requiring typically 3 sessions, 2 vials each 4-6 weeks apart.  The result is very subtle, as it develops over time…and is very long lasting at about a year and half.

However after much internal debate I have opted for Radiesse.  Radiesse also stimulates collagen to form over time…but has immediate effects like traditional fillers.  Radiesse doesn’t last quite as long (a year), but there is less of a tendency for “lumping” of the product.  And when you are dealing with a filler that lasts so long, the very last thing you want is for something to go wrong.

Which is why I am SO glad I have met Liliya.  She is a lovely aesthetician, with just the right balance of professionalism and confidence.  Liliya just did my Radiesse for me and I literally couldn’t be happier.

She noticed a large amount of asymmetry in my jaw – one side is much larger than the other.  So in addition to treating the hollows in my cheeks she “built up” the weaker side…I can’t tell you what a relief it is to see it more even, and the difference it makes to my face!  Also the treatment was REALLY very painless.  She uses a cannula – which is like a long hollow needle – to pull the product through the face in lines, minimising injections.  This lessens the chance of bruising, as less injections are made.  In fact I don’t think I have a single bruise.

The result of the treatment is very subtle – I doubt anyone could put their finger on exactly what is different.  Which is exactly the way I want it!  But I can tell, and feel much better for it.  Then in a few months we will come back and do the treatment again – as less is more and any changes are best taken in stages.  Also, building the collagen like this will extend the results to that of Sculptra.

What’s really fantastic is that building my jaw like that makes my face look less thin…and is much more natural looking than just filling out the cheeks to do so.

Liliya can be contacted at thompsonliliya@gmail.com, or 02036510467, or 077 8033 4449.  She will be working from Wimpole Street.  If you go to see her please mention my recommendation!

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The “Deep” Dermaroller treatment

Being a long weekend, I just performed the very popular “deep” dermaroller treatment.

The deep treatment uses 1.5mm needles, and the face is first numbed with emla.  That being said I wasn’t looking forward to the treatment, and nearly didn’t do it.  Also, I had never done one to myself, and wasn’t even sure if I would be able to.  But…it really wasn’t very bad at all.

First of all, the emla REALLY numbs.  This is a lidocaine solution, and literally upon removing it I could not feel my face AT ALL.  I still can’t and I finished half an hour ago.

When I started rolling I didn’t feel a thing…but inevitably there comes a point at which the treatment starts to be felt.  It is a little annoying, but being used to doing the “light” treatment without emla I didn’t find it all that uncomfortable really.

My face is red. But not as bad as I expected!  Also, I had a few “blood points”, which means tiny little droplets of blood over the face…but nothing too gruesome, especially compared to past laser treatments.


Now we wait and see for the results…but I can say with certainty there will be more of these in the future, about four to six weeks apart.  Brilliant treatment.

Two days later:

My face is no longer very red…but it feels very dry.  This, I think, is because the epidermis was surely damaged in the rolling.  This is part of the purpose of the treatment, as it incites activity in the dermis to replace these damaged cells on the surface of the skin.  I plan to just leave it for another few days, and then do a nice strong peel to clear it all away.

One week later:

All has been resolved, face is back to normal, looking improved!  Will repeat in a few months time.

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Beauty and the Mind/Body Connection

Part One

I’ve been doing some extra yoga lately…and it has me thinking about our mind/body connection, and treatments.

Savasana is usually the last pose of a yoga session, which to the casual observer is just lying on one’s back with eyes closed.  And yet any yoga practitioner knows this pose is, in it’s own way, a real challenge.

Savasana is an opportunity to integrate the work done to the body in the day’s session.  “Yoga” means “union”, and it is a physical meditative process to unite the body and the mind.  Through yoga the mind influences the body, and the body the mind.  I remember hearing in a class in LA years ago that each pose was a metaphor, a physical expression of an intention, thought, or feeling.  Warrior pose is proud and strong of course, whereas a forward bend is introspective and yielding.  In this way we harmonise our mind, body, and breath.

Savasana is a pose, though it looks like nap time.  We close our eyes, and it the objective is to notice the changes we are instigating in the body through our practice.  I try to feel the different energies in the body, feel the sense of liveliness my muscles and cells now have.  I try to keep a fluid focus on this, and not start thinking about what I am going to eat after class or what emails I have to return.  Herein lies the challenge!  And yet is essential to close the session, to sum it all up and get the greatest benefit of all that work you’ve been sweating through.

Sometimes when we close our eyes to try to meditate our minds seem to fly wild.  But it is important we continue to focus on the sensations of our body, and the changes we are trying to create.  And during an aesthetics session is no exception.

If you work with me as a client you have certainly heard me compare the sessions we do to “working out”.  “Consistency is the key to change!” I say over and over, because this is a principle I have seen work in my own life.  There are no quick fixes, there are no miracle treatments.  Some treatments can seem a miracle…but without repetition and consistency these results will fade.  However if we have a goal and we just keep showing up, with a clear vision in your mind of what you want to achieve these changes will happen, if only by degrees.

Before I do each treatment we talk about your skin, how it feels now, what you might like to work on today.  This is because rather than work “on” you, I want to work “with” you.  I want you to check in with yourself, and set a goal you would like to achieve with the session.  Reduced spots, reduced wrinkles?  Collagen production?  It’s important that you tune into yourself and set an intention for the session, just like in yoga.

And then, when we do the session, your eyes are closed and you are on your back, as in Savasana.  My suggestion is to focus on what we want to achieve, and the steps we are taking to achieving it through the mechanism of the treatment, rather than “zoning out”.  Focus on the sensations of the treatment, and the science behind it.  Feel the changes taking place.  Notice these changes when the session is through.  Through repetition of these actions and intentions we can mold and change ourselves physically to be our best… and through this meditative process we will also experience psychological benefits, exactly as we do in yoga.


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On Beauty and Aging

“…Attractiveness is about being the best possible you at the age you are.  Rather than trying to look younger, accept and embrace your age.  The challenge is that it takes more dedication to look good as one ages.  It’s also about feeling positive and grateful to be able to live life to the fullest.  Beauty fades, but attractiveness, to me, is something every woman can obtain” – Bronwyn Cosgrave, former features editor of Vogue, author, and curator


We can’t turn back the clock.  But I believe that we dont need to be young to be beautiful.  We can’t stop time, but we can use it to shape ourselves into the best possible version of ourselves, today.

I made significant changes to my body in my 20’s through dancing ballet, and to my chronic acne through the treatments I currently perform and products I recommend.  “Consistency is the key to change” I used to tell myself, “Rome wasn’t built in a day”…and it’s true.  We can be better today than we were yesterday if we just keep coming back and applying ourselves…the secret is vision and dedication.  Because of this kind of work on myself I feel more attractive now than I did in my 20’s, though I may not be as young.  It’s taken time for me to really understand and appreciate the way I look, and to make the best of myself.

Beauty to me is about making the most of what you’ve got.   As we age we stop trying to be what advertising etc tell us to be, as we know who we are, and what suits us.  We grow more comfortable in our own skin, and this is much more beautiful than trying to look like airbrushed ideals presented to instill us with insecurity in our appearance, so that we might buy the newest latest fad, feeling that beauty is “outside” us.

Some may think that the way we feel about how we look is superficial…I would challenge them to suffer from severe acne for a day.  The effects are obviously profound.  Not looking how you feel inside is a burden I understand, and work hard to relieve.  Conversely, when we feel confident about how we look we act more confident, and feel better.  And the very act of taking care of ourselves sends a message of self worth, which is beautiful.

The feeling of waking up in the morning with no makeup and being satisfied with what you see is a great feeling.  Being able to go to the beach and lie in the sun and not feel self conscious about your skin is another…  It’s about how you feel about yourself.  Do you feel like you on a “good” day or a “bad”?  The little things, like your skin, can mean so much.  What I suggest is let’s think ahead. Let’s use each day as an opportunity to challenge ourselves into a better state of being, creating a better version of ourselves tomorrow.  This is what today’s treatments are about.  We will not only look better, but feel better…and this is how to be beautiful, at any age.